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    of how I react to it And so it is with you we are in charge of our Attitudes Chuck Swindoll pastor author To determine the current state of your attitude ask yourself these questions How would you describe your attitude Right now In general What in your life is currently helping your attitude What is hurting it How much do you let others impact your attitude If you keep your current attitude where will it take you in five years If you could bottle and sell your attitude would anyone want to buy it How much would you get for it If your attitude isn t stellar you might think there s nothing you can do about it It might feel built in like it s part of your basic personality While it s true that some people are inherently more positive than others just like any other mindset developing a good attitude is something you can learn Here are some simple things you can do to strengthen your good attitude muscle 1 Surround yourself with positive thinkers and shun those who are negative Your brain automatically imitates the behaviors of the people around you 2 Cultivate the ability to laugh at yourself If you don t laugh at yourself others will do it for you 3 Spend time in nature listening to music or any activity that feeds your spirit Make time for more things that make you appreciate the world 4 Spend time with pets and young people Both are guaranteed to boost your mood 5 Exercise It s one of the best ways to move to a better frame of mind See Full Story on addicted2success com Filed Under Personal Development Tagged With Attitude Exercise Good Attitude Laugh Spend Time Physical Attraction Looks Do Count 13 June 2014 by Digital Curator Leave a Comment Don t be fooled by yourself or kind hearted friends Looks matter in the dating game and never more so that in the media savvy world we live in today It maybe be unfair we may hate it but it is true Image is king and speaks volumes about who we are From the clothes we wear to the places we eat and drink to the places we decide to inhabit people notice what we do and make judgements as to who we are by how we look The very first facet of our self image is our presentation to others and this is initially portrayed through the way we look Now I think it s fair to say that most people don t have a fabulous self image We all know people who love themselves but generally though we may like ourselves we don t love everything about us We may not like our noise the shape of our face our hair the way we get a wrinkle around the eye Maybe our butt is too big or we could do with losing some weight But whatever it is there will always be something that could be bettered Just look at the way people who have had a lot of cosmetic surgery still manage to complain Well I am sorry guys but perfection is somewhat elusive The basis of any courtship date or relationship is basic physical attraction If you are not attracted to someone and they are not attracted to you you have just become friends Whatever happens afterwards it is likely to stay that way You both must be physically attracted on some level to make things work Yes spiritual attraction deep respect and friendship all do play a part in the longer term but in the first few minutes of meeting we instantly recognize whether there is an attraction and chemistry present between us These basic signals dilate pupils redden the skin wet the lips and arouse base human instincts That desire is to lead to the wish to have sex The issue is that these signals are being eroded by well meaning campaigners who say that looks should not matter I am not really very good looking in my own opinion but I do know what I look like And I do know who and what I am attracted to I am sometimes called shallow because I go for a certain look for my dates But the point is that these looks are what I find attractive and I tend to go for people who go for my kind of looks thus increasing the chance of dating success Initial dates are all about looks about who and what we find attractive and we are foolish if we try and suppress these desires If you like someone s hair eyes lips the way they play with their fingers the way they hold a glass or the way they walk then this is all on purpose It is all part of the grander plan of matching like with like By matching couples who are physically attracted it is nature s way of pairing off And for the most part it works well The issue arises where we have trouble finding people who find us attractive The first thing that springs to mind is that where physically appealing looks are lacking so people tend to make up with personality Some of the sexiest people I have ever met are not physically attractive but they are immensely funny Comedians are often not the best looking people you have met but are very attractive This in some way comes from their inner confidence and stage presence It is often said that men who are not too tall exude character and personality to make up for it Again this may be true The key thing though is that we must not underplay the reality that looks are important when dating We should try to understand what kind of looks we really are attracted to and what kind of people we appeal to We should understand how we look to others If we are unhappy with the way we look then we should take necessary steps to look the best we can That is not for others but purely for ourselves In turn this will increase confidence levels and help make us more attractive People will often say that one should not care about what is outside but what is inside that matters Its true That is the way the world should be But it isn t That kind of comment comes from those who are secretly worried about the way they look See Full Story on topdatingtips com Filed Under Dating Tagged With Dating Physical Attraction Physical Looks 42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself 13 June 2014 by Digital Curator Leave a Comment Are you someone who likes to grow Do you constantly seek to improve yourself and become better If you do then we have something in common I m very passionate about personal growth It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion for growing and helping others grow At that time I was 22 and in my final year of university As I thought about the meaning of life I realized there was nothing more meaningful than to pursue a life of development and betterment It is through improving ourselves that we get the most out of life SEE ALSO How to Better Yourself One Day at a Time After 1 5 years of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my personal development blog I realize there is never an end to the journey of self improvement The more I grow the more I realize there is so much out there I don t know so much that I have to learn For sure there is always something about ourselves we can improve on The human potential is limitless so it s impossible to reach a point of no growth Whenever we think we are good we can be even better As a passionate advocate of growth I m continuously looking for ways to self improve I ve compiled 42 of my best tips which might be helpful in your personal growth journey Some of them are simple steps which you can engage in immediately Some are bigger steps which takes conscious effort to act on Here they are Read a book every day Books are concentrated sources of wisdom The more books you read the more wisdom you expose yourself to What are some books you can start reading to enrich yourself Some books I ve read and found useful are Think and Grow Rich Who Moved My Cheese 7 Habits The Science of Getting Rich and Living the 80 20 Way I ve heard positive reviews for The Tipping Point Outliers and The Difference Maker so I ll be checking them out soon Learn a new language As a Singaporean Chinese my main languages are English Mandarin and Hokkien a Chinese dialect Out of interest I took up language courses in the past few years such as Japanese and Bahasa Indonesian I realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of acquainting with a new language and culture is a totally a mind opening experience Pick up a new hobby Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies is there something new you can pick up Any new sport you can learn Examples are fencing golf rock climbing football canoeing or ice skating Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby For example pottery Italian cooking dancing wine appreciation web design etc Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects whether physically mentally or emotionally Take up a new course Is there any new course you can join Courses are a great way to gain new knowledge and skills It doesn t have to be a long term course seminars or workshops serve their purpose too I ve been to a few workshops and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not considered before Create an inspirational room Your environment sets the mood and tone for you If you are living in an inspirational environment you are going to be inspired every day In the past I didn t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and dull A few years ago I decided this was the end of it I started on a Mega Room Revamp project and overhauled my room The end result A room I totally relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day See Full Story on lifehack org Filed Under Career Progression Tagged With Growth personal growth Self improvement The Courage to Live Consciously 12 June 2014 by Digital Curator Leave a Comment Security is mostly a superstition It does not exist in nature nor do the children of men as a whole experience it Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure Life is either a daring adventure or nothing To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable Helen Keller In our day to day lives the virtue of courage doesn t receive much attention Courage is a quality reserved for soldiers firefighters and activists Security is what matters most today Perhaps you were taught to avoid being too bold or too brave It s too dangerous Don t take unnecessary risks Don t draw attention to yourself in public Follow family traditions Don t talk to strangers Keep an eye out for suspicious people Stay safe But a side effect of overemphasizing the importance of personal security in your life is that it can cause you to live reactively Instead of setting your own goals making plans to achieve them and going after them with gusto you play it safe Keep working at the stable job even though it doesn t fulfill you Remain in the unsatisfying relationship even though you feel dead inside compared to the passion you once had Who are you to think that you can buck the system Accept your lot in life and make the best of it Go with the flow and don t rock the boat Your only hope is that the currents of life will pull you in a favorable direction No doubt there exist real dangers in life you must avoid But there s a huge gulf between recklessness and courage I m not referring to the heroic courage required to risk your life to save someone from a burning building By courage I mean the ability to face down those imaginary fears and reclaim the far more powerful life that you ve denied yourself Fear of failure Fear of rejection Fear of going broke Fear of being alone Fear of humiliation Fear of public speaking Fear of being ostracized by family and friends Fear of physical discomfort Fear of regret Fear of success How many of these fears are holding you back How would you live if you had no fear at all You d still have your intelligence and common sense to safely navigate around any real dangers but without feeling the emotion of fear would you be more willing to take risks especially when the worst case wouldn t actually hurt you at all Would you speak up more often talk to more strangers ask for more sales dive headlong into those ambitious projects you ve been dreaming about What if you even learned to enjoy the things you currently fear What kind of difference would that make in your life Have you previously convinced yourself that you aren t really afraid of anything that there are always good and logical reasons why you don t do certain things It would be rude to introduce yourself to a stranger You shouldn t attempt public speaking because you don t have anything to say Asking for a raise would be improper because you re supposed to wait until the next formal review They re just rationalizations though think about how your life would change if you could confidently and courageously do these things with no fear at all What Is Courage Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear Ambrose Redmoon Courage is resistance to fear mastery of fear not absence of fear Mark Twain Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway John Wayne I like the definitions of courage above which all suggest that courage is the ability to get yourself to take action in spite of fear The word courage derives from the Latin cor which means heart But true courage is more a matter of intellect than of feeling It requires using the uniquely human part of your brain the neocortex to wrest control away from the emotional limbic brain you share in common with other mammals Your limbic brain signals danger but your neocortex reasons that the danger isn t real so you simply feel the fear and take action anyway The more you learn to act in spite of fear the more human you become The more you follow the fear the more you live like a lower mammal So the question Are you a man or a mouse is consistent with human neurology Courageous people are still afraid but they don t let the fear paralyze them People who lack courage will give into fear more often than not which actually has the long term effect of strengthening the fear When you avoid facing a fear and then feel relieved that you escaped it this acts as a psychological reward that reinforces the mouse like avoidance behavior making you even more likely to avoid facing the fear in the future So the more you avoid asking someone out on a date the more paralyzed you ll feel about taking such actions in the future You are literally conditioning yourself to become more timid and mouse like Such avoidance behavior causes stagnation in the long run As you get older you reinforce your fear reactions to the point where it s hard to even imagine yourself standing up to your fears You begin taking your fears for granted they become real to you You cocoon yourself into a life that insulates you from all these fears a stable but unhappy marriage a job that doesn t require you to take risks an income that keeps you comfortable Then you rationalize your behavior You have a family to support and can t take risks you re too old to shift careers you can t lose weight because you have fat genes Five years ten years twenty years pass and you realize that your life hasn t changed all that much You ve settled down All that s really left now is to live out the remainder of your years as contently as possible and then settle yourself into the ground where you ll finally achieve total safety and security But there s something else going on behind the scenes isn t there That tiny voice in the back of your mind recalls that this isn t the kind of life you wanted to live It wants more much more It wants you to become far wealthier to have an outstanding relationship to get your body in peak physical condition to learn new skills to travel the world to have lots of wonderful friends to help people in need to make a meaningful difference That voice tells you that settling into a job where you sell widgets the rest of your life just won t cut it That voice frowns at you when you catch a glance of your oversized belly in the mirror or get winded going up a flight of stairs It beams disappointment when it sees what s become of your family It tells you that the reason you have trouble

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  • 21 Reasons Why Successful People Meditate
    that experienced meditators exhibit high levels of gamma wave activity and display an ability continuing after the meditation session has attended to not get stuck on a particular stimulus That is they re automatically able to control their thoughts and reactiveness 3 It lets us get to know our true selves Mindfulness can help us see beyond those rose colored glasses when we need to really objectively analyze ourselves A study in the journal Psychological Science shows that mindfulness can help us conquer common blind spots which can amplify or diminish our own flaws beyond reality 4 It can make your grades better Researchers from the University of California Santa Barbara found that college students who were trained in mindfulness performed better on the verbal reasoning section of the GRE and also experienced improvements in their working memory Our results suggest that cultivating mindfulness is an effective and efficient technique for improving cognitive function with widereaching consequences the researchers wrote in the Psychological Science study 5 It improves performance and ability The U S Marine Corps is in the process of seeing how mindfulness meditation training can improve troops performance and ability to handle and recover from stress 6 It could help people with arthritis better handle stress A 2011 study in the journal Annals of Rheumatic Disease shows that even though mindfulness training may not help to lessen pain for people with rheumatoid arthritis it could help to lower their stress and fatigue 7 It changes the brain in a protective way University of Oregon researchers found that integrative body mind training which is a meditation technique can actually result in brain changes that may be protective against mental illness The meditation practice was linked with increased signaling connections in the brain something called axonal density as well as

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  • Digital Curator
    Trust goes two ways you need to behave in such a way that people will trust you will do what you say And equally important you need to trust others Help others One of the keys to growth is helping others When you make the effort to assist someone else to become better at what they do you become better yourself Believe in yourself As your skills increase you gain more experience and a clearer understanding your significance to your organization Believing in yourself your skills and your ability to succeed without becoming arrogant is a good thing And never forget the people who have helped you along the way Work yourself out of the job This one may not make sense on its face but the idea is to work effectively and close the loop on what you are doing Think in terms of projects plan what you are going to do work at it and when it s finished move on to the next project Work effectively and make it so that anyone could step in and take over As you do that you will automatically make yourself more valuable to your company and they will have no choice but to promote you or find something more challenging for you to do See Full Story on leadonpurposeblog com Filed Under Career Progression Tagged With Believe Career Growth Help Knowledge Skills Trust Work 9 Ways to Strengthen Your Good Attitude Muscle 16 June 2014 by Digital Curator Leave a Comment Everything can be taken from a man but one thing the last of human freedoms to choose one s attitude in any given set of circumstances to choose one s own way Viktor E Frankl neuroscientist psychiatrist concentration camp survivor Your life is defined by two things First it s defined by the choices you make Today I ll be talking about the second thing your ATTITUDE Somewhere along the line you may have read this poignant quote on the importance of attitude The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life Attitude to me is more important than facts It is more important than the past the education the money than circumstances than failure than successes than what other people think or say or do It is more important than appearance giftedness or skill It will make or break a company a church a home The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day We cannot change our past we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way We cannot change the inevitable The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have and that is our attitude I am convinced that life is 10 what happens to me and 90 of how I react to it And so it is with you we are in charge of our Attitudes Chuck Swindoll pastor author To determine the current state of your attitude ask yourself these questions How would you describe your attitude Right now In general What in your life is currently helping your attitude What is hurting it How much do you let others impact your attitude If you keep your current attitude where will it take you in five years If you could bottle and sell your attitude would anyone want to buy it How much would you get for it If your attitude isn t stellar you might think there s nothing you can do about it It might feel built in like it s part of your basic personality While it s true that some people are inherently more positive than others just like any other mindset developing a good attitude is something you can learn Here are some simple things you can do to strengthen your good attitude muscle 1 Surround yourself with positive thinkers and shun those who are negative Your brain automatically imitates the behaviors of the people around you 2 Cultivate the ability to laugh at yourself If you don t laugh at yourself others will do it for you 3 Spend time in nature listening to music or any activity that feeds your spirit Make time for more things that make you appreciate the world 4 Spend time with pets and young people Both are guaranteed to boost your mood 5 Exercise It s one of the best ways to move to a better frame of mind See Full Story on addicted2success com Filed Under Personal Development Tagged With Attitude Exercise Good Attitude Laugh Spend Time Physical Attraction Looks Do Count 13 June 2014 by Digital Curator Leave a Comment Don t be fooled by yourself or kind hearted friends Looks matter in the dating game and never more so that in the media savvy world we live in today It maybe be unfair we may hate it but it is true Image is king and speaks volumes about who we are From the clothes we wear to the places we eat and drink to the places we decide to inhabit people notice what we do and make judgements as to who we are by how we look The very first facet of our self image is our presentation to others and this is initially portrayed through the way we look Now I think it s fair to say that most people don t have a fabulous self image We all know people who love themselves but generally though we may like ourselves we don t love everything about us We may not like our noise the shape of our face our hair the way we get a wrinkle around the eye Maybe our butt is too big or we could do with losing some weight But whatever it is there will always be something that could be bettered Just look at the way people who have had a lot of cosmetic surgery still manage to complain Well I am sorry guys but perfection is somewhat elusive The basis of any courtship date or relationship is basic physical attraction If you are not attracted to someone and they are not attracted to you you have just become friends Whatever happens afterwards it is likely to stay that way You both must be physically attracted on some level to make things work Yes spiritual attraction deep respect and friendship all do play a part in the longer term but in the first few minutes of meeting we instantly recognize whether there is an attraction and chemistry present between us These basic signals dilate pupils redden the skin wet the lips and arouse base human instincts That desire is to lead to the wish to have sex The issue is that these signals are being eroded by well meaning campaigners who say that looks should not matter I am not really very good looking in my own opinion but I do know what I look like And I do know who and what I am attracted to I am sometimes called shallow because I go for a certain look for my dates But the point is that these looks are what I find attractive and I tend to go for people who go for my kind of looks thus increasing the chance of dating success Initial dates are all about looks about who and what we find attractive and we are foolish if we try and suppress these desires If you like someone s hair eyes lips the way they play with their fingers the way they hold a glass or the way they walk then this is all on purpose It is all part of the grander plan of matching like with like By matching couples who are physically attracted it is nature s way of pairing off And for the most part it works well The issue arises where we have trouble finding people who find us attractive The first thing that springs to mind is that where physically appealing looks are lacking so people tend to make up with personality Some of the sexiest people I have ever met are not physically attractive but they are immensely funny Comedians are often not the best looking people you have met but are very attractive This in some way comes from their inner confidence and stage presence It is often said that men who are not too tall exude character and personality to make up for it Again this may be true The key thing though is that we must not underplay the reality that looks are important when dating We should try to understand what kind of looks we really are attracted to and what kind of people we appeal to We should understand how we look to others If we are unhappy with the way we look then we should take necessary steps to look the best we can That is not for others but purely for ourselves In turn this will increase confidence levels and help make us more attractive People will often say that one should not care about what is outside but what is inside that matters Its true That is the way the world should be But it isn t That kind of comment comes from those who are secretly worried about the way they look See Full Story on topdatingtips com Filed Under Dating Tagged With Dating Physical Attraction Physical Looks 42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself 13 June 2014 by Digital Curator Leave a Comment Are you someone who likes to grow Do you constantly seek to improve yourself and become better If you do then we have something in common I m very passionate about personal growth It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion for growing and helping others grow At that time I was 22 and in my final year of university As I thought about the meaning of life I realized there was nothing more meaningful than to pursue a life of development and betterment It is through improving ourselves that we get the most out of life SEE ALSO How to Better Yourself One Day at a Time After 1 5 years of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my personal development blog I realize there is never an end to the journey of self improvement The more I grow the more I realize there is so much out there I don t know so much that I have to learn For sure there is always something about ourselves we can improve on The human potential is limitless so it s impossible to reach a point of no growth Whenever we think we are good we can be even better As a passionate advocate of growth I m continuously looking for ways to self improve I ve compiled 42 of my best tips which might be helpful in your personal growth journey Some of them are simple steps which you can engage in immediately Some are bigger steps which takes conscious effort to act on Here they are Read a book every day Books are concentrated sources of wisdom The more books you read the more wisdom you expose yourself to What are some books you can start reading to enrich yourself Some books I ve read and found useful are Think and Grow Rich Who Moved My Cheese 7 Habits The Science of Getting Rich and Living the 80 20 Way I ve heard positive reviews for The Tipping Point Outliers and The Difference Maker so I ll be checking them out soon Learn a new language As a Singaporean Chinese my main languages are English Mandarin and Hokkien a Chinese dialect Out of interest I took up language courses in the past few years such as Japanese and Bahasa Indonesian I realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of acquainting with a new language and culture is a totally a mind opening experience Pick up a new hobby Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies is there something new you can pick up Any new sport you can learn Examples are fencing golf rock climbing football canoeing or ice skating Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby For example pottery Italian cooking dancing wine appreciation web design etc Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects whether physically mentally or emotionally Take up a new course Is there any new course you can join Courses are a great way to gain new knowledge and skills It doesn t have to be a long term course seminars or workshops serve their purpose too I ve been to a few workshops and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not considered before Create an inspirational room Your environment sets the mood and tone for you If you are living in an inspirational environment you are going to be inspired every day In the past I didn t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and dull A few years ago I decided this was the end of it I started on a Mega Room Revamp project and overhauled my room The end result A room I totally relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day See Full Story on lifehack org Filed Under Career Progression Tagged With Growth personal growth Self improvement The Courage to Live Consciously 12 June 2014 by Digital Curator Leave a Comment Security is mostly a superstition It does not exist in nature nor do the children of men as a whole experience it Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure Life is either a daring adventure or nothing To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable Helen Keller In our day to day lives the virtue of courage doesn t receive much attention Courage is a quality reserved for soldiers firefighters and activists Security is what matters most today Perhaps you were taught to avoid being too bold or too brave It s too dangerous Don t take unnecessary risks Don t draw attention to yourself in public Follow family traditions Don t talk to strangers Keep an eye out for suspicious people Stay safe But a side effect of overemphasizing the importance of personal security in your life is that it can cause you to live reactively Instead of setting your own goals making plans to achieve them and going after them with gusto you play it safe Keep working at the stable job even though it doesn t fulfill you Remain in the unsatisfying relationship even though you feel dead inside compared to the passion you once had Who are you to think that you can buck the system Accept your lot in life and make the best of it Go with the flow and don t rock the boat Your only hope is that the currents of life will pull you in a favorable direction No doubt there exist real dangers in life you must avoid But there s a huge gulf between recklessness and courage I m not referring to the heroic courage required to risk your life to save someone from a burning building By courage I mean the ability to face down those imaginary fears and reclaim the far more powerful life that you ve denied yourself Fear of failure Fear of rejection Fear of going broke Fear of being alone Fear of humiliation Fear of public speaking Fear of being ostracized by family and friends Fear of physical discomfort Fear of regret Fear of success How many of these fears are holding you back How would you live if you had no fear at all You d still have your intelligence and common sense to safely navigate around any real dangers but without feeling the emotion of fear would you be more willing to take risks especially when the worst case wouldn t actually hurt you at all Would you speak up more often talk to more strangers ask for more sales dive headlong into those ambitious projects you ve been dreaming about What if you even learned to enjoy the things you currently fear What kind of difference would that make in your life Have you previously convinced yourself that you aren t really afraid of anything that there are always good and logical reasons why you don t do certain things It would be rude to introduce yourself to a stranger You shouldn t attempt public speaking because you don t have anything to say Asking for a raise would be improper because you re supposed to wait until the next formal review They re just rationalizations though think about how your life would change if you could confidently and courageously do these things with no fear at all What Is Courage Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear Ambrose Redmoon Courage is resistance to fear mastery of fear not absence of fear Mark Twain Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway John Wayne I like the definitions of courage above which all suggest that courage is the ability to get yourself to take action in spite of fear The word courage derives from the Latin cor which means heart But true courage is more a matter of intellect than of feeling It requires using the uniquely human part of your brain the neocortex to wrest control away from the emotional limbic brain you share in common with other mammals Your limbic brain signals danger but your neocortex reasons that the danger isn t real so you simply feel the fear and take action anyway The more you learn to act in

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